Is it better to be told comforting lies or unpleasant truths?
says Lil_Princess on Jun 8th 15 (#777710)
In the long run,
the unpleasant truth
comforting lies are nice
says fuzala on Jun 9th 15 (#1995027)
It always happens the other way around for me. :)
says Lil_Princess on Jun 9th 15 (#1995030)
In the long run
I'm going for the truth because I wanna tackle the pain right now rather than having to deal with it later
In the short term
I'm looking for the lie because at the moment
it'll feel nice
I usually delay gratification and am not a fan of instant gratification
says fuzala on Jun 9th 15 (#1995032)
I can see your point... :)
Pretty sure I could use a good lie right about now...
says Lil_Princess on Jun 9th 15 (#1995033)
says Darkest_Serenity on Jul 15th 15 (#2029614)
Yea I am fantastic :)
I wrote that back on 6/8
says Lil_Princess on Jul 15th 15 (#2029678)
I wasn't alive back in 68. Otherwise I would have seen Jimi Hendrix live. :)
says DW2 on Jul 15th 15 (#2029729)
Haha I meant June 8th
says Lil_Princess on Jul 15th 15 (#2029732)
says Darkest_Serenity on Jul 16th 15 (#2030539)
says ErasmusB_FurmanSmall on Jun 9th 15 (#1995194)
Depends on the truth.
says DW2 on Jun 9th 15 (#1995206)
Unpleasant Truth. Lie are lies and aren't real
says Synyster on Jun 9th 15 (#1995252)
The funny thing is half the time they are.
says DW2 on Jun 9th 15 (#1995287)
says Synyster on Jun 9th 15 (#1995295)
Unpleasant truths, they come out eventually anyway
says kjkjhar on Jun 10th 15 (#1995347)
Depends. Generally I'd say truth but if it's something that you can't change anyway then hell, why not lie
says Sobriquet on Jun 10th 15 (#1995441)
Well, when you lie to someone, you let them go on believing something that could hurt them and those around them. The truth may hurt, but one can wise up and move past it. No one ever said life was easy or kind to us.
says Indie on Jun 10th 15 (#1995448)
And um, lies ARE lies. If they were ever true, they'd be called truths.
says Indie on Jun 10th 15 (#1995449)
I have a bunch of donuts. Nevermind. I ate a few. Though I still have a bunch left! Ok, just a few. That's still a bunch in comparison to none! :p :)
says DW2 on Jun 11th 15 (#1995654)
That's you adding your opinion into it. Someone could interpret a "bunch" as 6 while another person 10.
A truth is different for every person but in formal terms, it's a fact. If you said you had SOME donuts(as in more than one), you'd be truthful. I just had an argument with some guy about this. He wasn't very bright and didn't realize that truth and fact were synonymous. He also kept adding his completely biased opinions to the conversation. We were having an argument(instead of debate) about DBZ(famous anime) btw. If it matters. XP
A lie is, well, not truth/fact. As I pointed out, individuals could describe a "bunch" differently. But if you said that you had NO donuts, you'd be lying. That's where it starts to hurt people; when you try and cherry pick what you want to say from a situation and add your own feelings to it, instead of first explaining all that really happened. Perhaps then you can give your input, if needed.
says Indie on Jun 11th 15 (#1995707)
it depends. if i have only one dress and no way to get a new in time, i would rather hear "you look nice, don't worry" than "you better go naked than with that dress"
says seed11 on Jun 10th 15 (#1995472)
true. Same with "do I look like I've put on some weight?" If I'm asking, I probably know, I just wanna hear that whatever I'm wearing hides that until I've lost it lol.
says kjkjhar on Jun 10th 15 (#1995489)
says Indie on Jun 10th 15 (#1995505)
Unpleasant truths....if they really are truths.
says Tiffanee on Jun 10th 15 (#1995510)
says Drue on Jun 11th 15 (#1995725)
says blindfaith on Jun 11th 15 (#1995790)
Unpleasant truths are better.
says ajmsituation on Jun 12th 15 (#1996277)
Honesty is always the best policy!
says Ang98 on Jun 14th 15 (#1997855)
Sometimes the lie is the best choice. Alzheimer's patients need to be lied to; trust me on that one. You just tell them what makes them happy.
says JerryHendrickson on Jul 15th 15 (#2029416)
that's different, I think we are talking about the average person. I know about that, my grandma had it & my mom is gotten really forgetful since her stroke last year.
says Ang98 on Jul 15th 15 (#2029874)
Sometimes you have to lie a little. I don't see any point in crushing the feelings of someone when a little white lie will smooth things over. I hate to do it but sometimes, it is the better option.
says Tiffanee on Jul 15th 15 (#2029433)
I agree with that to a point but with my spouse/bf, it's total honesty or it's over, I lived with lies much too long with my ex, I hate liars!
says Ang98 on Jul 15th 15 (#2030040)
I weigh up any situation , play the scenario out in my head and then I make my decision.
Do I tell the Truth or a little White Lie
or in some cases a Great Big Whopper
Sometime's Life has given me no other choice , especially when People I care about could be hurt so badly by the Truth
One should also remember , the messenger always gets shot
says Darkest_Serenity on Jul 15th 15 (#2029609)
I opt for truth.
says Budwick on Jul 15th 15 (#2029629)
I always have. The older I get.. Comforting lies don't seem as bad. :)
says DW2 on Jul 15th 15 (#2029633)
to be honest, unpleasant truths. The truth can hurt sometimes, but it is better to tell it than sugarcoat it.
says StephenB on Jul 15th 15 (#2029848)
I'll take unpleasant truths. It hurts more to figure out those comforting lies were well...lies...and that you weren't worth the truth. :/
says Dami on Jul 16th 15 (#2030127)
I'll take the truth
I rather take the pain now rather than get hurt by the lie later
says fuzala on Jul 16th 15 (#2030140)
I totally agree fuzala!
says Ang98 on Jul 16th 15 (#2030142)
Yeah, save the happy up
Something to look forward to
says fuzala on Jul 16th 15 (#2030143)
says acronombe2012 on Jul 16th 15 (#2030518)
depends on the situation, and who you are talking too , Of course
says Barok on Jul 16th 15 (#2030705)
Unpleasant truths. It may sting at first, but it's certainly less devaluing to the self than a lie.
says ForkNdaRoad on Jul 16th 15 (#2030804)
if only more people would realize this!
says Ang98 on Jul 16th 15 (#2031118)
Depends on whether knowing the unpleasant truths will allow me to make the world less unpleasant
says DWF on Jul 16th 15 (#2030896)
I'd rather know the truth. The truth comes out eventually.
says TheAmazinZedd on Jul 18th 15 (#2032716)
it sure does & the longer the lie, the more mad you are about it, doesn't make you forgive them that's for sure, makes everything worse!
says Ang98 on Jul 20th 15 (#2033524)
says xXPurpleGuyXx on Aug 16th 15 (#2067360)
unpleasant truths. it may hurt at present but it can also promote growth in the long ride unlike lies that can just hurt more if revealed.
says shikiriiin on Aug 16th 15 (#2067752)
I know we all say we want the truth, but a lot of the times, we just go by "ignorance is bliss" We're so busy that we put it off until later. It's also scary hearing the unpleasant truth. Like you don't wanna believe that so and so is cheating on you or that so and so is betraying you. You don't wanna think about it because you'll know there's immediate pain involved. It takes a lot of strength to rip off that band aid and face reality.
In shorter words, we say we want the unpleasant truth over the pleasant lie, but easier said than done
says fuzala on Aug 16th 15 (#2067758)
I prefer unpleasant truths.
says Ilikeme on Aug 16th 15 (#2067836)
I mean, sure, a comforting lie will make me feel better. But, if anyone wants any sort of successful relationship with me (friendship, dating, etc) then it would be in their best interest to always be honest. 100%, no ****.
says Witty_sob on Aug 16th 15 (#2068013)
I'll gonna go with comforting truths. : )
(yes, I realize that wasn't an option. I don't care. I play by my own rules.)
says semple on Aug 16th 15 (#2068170)
I guess cause it is you I will let it slide...this time. :)
says Lil_Princess on Aug 16th 15 (#2068178)
Unpleasant truths. It sucks, and there's always the "ignorance is bliss" concept, but once you find out the truth, there's never any going back.
says rhiannichole on Aug 18th 15 (#2069361)
says GizzmyOzzie on Aug 18th 15 (#2069455)
says C_ZAR1 on Sep 2nd 15 (#2083071)
Unpleasant truths. I'd rather deal than be lied to.
says BuddyCakes on Sep 13th 15 (#2093624)
The truth no matter how hard it is. But it can be done kindly and with grace most of the time.
says ozzyboy on Sep 14th 15 (#2094433)
Unpleasant truths, because even though the truth might hurt, it's always better than to tell a lie.
says StephenB on Oct 11th 15 (#2122980)
says EternalSailorSol on Oct 12th 15 (#2123190)
Men, we are on a secret mission, we must secure the coffee and donuts
problem is, the Germans drank all the coffee and ate all our donuts
now we are going to go and kick their ****.
moans & groans all around
says Neanderthal_Momdoer on Oct 12th 15 (#2123207)
says Wolfcave on Oct 12th 15 (#2123223)
says EternalSailorSol on Oct 12th 15 (#2123226)
They are always better than a lie.
says Wolfcave on Oct 12th 15 (#2123249)
says EternalSailorSol on Oct 12th 15 (#2124051)
Not always. Have you somehow put yourself into every situation that calls for the truth or a lie? If you're in Nazi Germany when those scummers are rounding up Jews to murder, do you tell the truth when they ask you where the Jews are? People are idiots when they're so arrogant to think everything is cut and dry.
says JerryHendrickson on Dec 7th 17 (#2701263)
says botter on Dec 22nd 15 (#2191408)
Depends - sometimes you need one or the other.
says beachbum on Mar 1st 16 (#2239733)
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Dec 7th 17 (#2701142)
Both corrode, eventually, so neither
says PartyOfOne on Dec 7th 17 (#2701198)
Neither Tis better to find somebody who doesn’t need to lie. Because the truth won’t hurt.
says DW2 on Dec 7th 17 (#2701251)
The truth everytime...how can any good come from a lie...
says JD on Dec 7th 17 (#2701266)
Nazi soldiers:" are you hiding any Jew?" you: "No.
Good lie right there.
says JerryHendrickson on Dec 7th 17 (#2701267)
In case you never heard , the war is over....but the question is being told the truth or a lie, not me being asked....you are weird...
says JD on Dec 7th 17 (#2701269)
Sometimes, If you don't lie, you're evil scum. Simple.
says JerryHendrickson on Dec 7th 17 (#2701268)
If you tell the truth you're evil scum.....I'm glad I don't live in your sad world...
says JD on Dec 7th 17 (#2701272)
You left out the word "sometimes" to make me look as bad as you possible can. Twisting words like the media.
says JerryHendrickson on Dec 7th 17 (#2701341)
I did...but calling anyone scum, puts you in the gutter...where you seem happy...
says JD on Dec 7th 17 (#2701359)
Who did I direct the word at? Anyone who would refuse to lie when it's the only right thing to do.
says JerryHendrickson on Dec 7th 17 (#2701396)
Many people picked the truth with their comments, but you decide to attack me...I don't consider anyone scum who tell the truth..not one person...
says JD on Dec 7th 17 (#2701405)
says StellaMacSeamrog on Dec 7th 17 (#2701274)
People are going to tell you only what they want you to know, whether it’s a lie or the truth there is no way of knowing,,so what do you believe!!
says symplycurious on Dec 7th 17 (#2701305)
Unpleasant truths. The truth we can handle
says Jaxxi on Dec 7th 17 (#2701307)
Truth all the way!
says Masha on Dec 7th 17 (#2701346)
says thatdude100 on Dec 9th 17 (#2702071)
What most people here continue to not understand is that the answer to this question changes according to the circumstance. They just answer in the zombie like manner in which they feel best about themselves. They mostly seem to worry most about what others think of them. Selfish.
says JerryHendrickson on Dec 10th 17 (#2702313)
That's bs....some prefer the truth and some don't ...not zombies or selfish and for all of us it would depend on the type of lie or truth...I agree it depends on circumstances ...
says JD on Dec 10th 17 (#2702329)