Do you sometimes worry about speaking too much of your mind because your opinion might hurt someone you like?
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#814465)
One takes a chance when they put out an opinion or a question... Both can become awkward...and it can get also get awkward when people start to think you are attached to your posts.
Any question or post can become hurtful... That's a risk we posters take. We just hope people won't also take them personally and then block you but, oh, alas and alack...that does happen. Some people on here want life to be peaches and cream...ALL the time. Life's not like that so...why should we be?
says Sukiesnow on Sep 15th 17 (#2653895)
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To reiterate: not all Opinions are that of the poster. They are interesting in and of themselves, that's all.
says Bub on Sep 17th 17 (#2656033)
Everyone has a filter between brain and mouth....some more than others..
Some things are just better off not being said...but that's up to each person to decide....and live with.
says DandyDon on Sep 15th 17 (#2653904)
Yep! Well said.
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654058)
Some have no filter at all....
says Tiffanee on Sep 15th 17 (#2654298)
You got that right...
says DandyDon on Sep 15th 17 (#2654482)
How's your filter today?
says Sofia on Sep 15th 17 (#2654310)
Same as it ever was..
says DandyDon on Sep 15th 17 (#2654486)
I say it how it is and don't have time to worry about whose **** I'm hurting, so in other words suck it up buttercup
says symplycurious on Sep 15th 17 (#2653913)
How it is? What does that mean? What you think is "the truth"?
says Bub on Sep 17th 17 (#2656034)
One knows what the truth is, it all depends on the circumstances and or the situation and who I talk too....we learn something new everyday
says symplycurious on Sep 20th 17 (#2657645)
Yes, I am not here to intentionally hurt people. If i do it is just happenstance.
says Will_Janitor on Sep 15th 17 (#2653920)
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654059)
Elvis,Micheal Jackson, Prince a lot of people don't want to hear people speak their minds either
says shinrin on Sep 15th 17 (#2654077)
Now come on those dead guys no longer care for sure, they aren't gods just dead musicians.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Sep 25th 17 (#2660898)
Thanks for making my point most are dead because of enablers who said yes one time too many times instead of saying what needed to be said.God is capitalized and singular FYI;)
says shinrin on Sep 30th 17 (#2665344)
gods are roman greek egyptian there were many gods in the past.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Oct 4th 17 (#2667466)
I'd rather give real answers and opinions than something that sounds intelligent and feels good, but answers or solves nothing. Over sensitive people who need coddled make me want to
says Bookyanka on Sep 15th 17 (#2654266)
If, for example, someone directly asks for my honest opinion I will give it regardless of whether or not it may hurt him/her. Another example would be a discussion of politics in which everyone is expressing his or her opinions. I would certainly give mine regardless of what someone else may believe.
However it's not always necessary to give your opinion. Ask yourself; Why am I giving my opinion? What is the nature of the discussion? Is there anything to be gained? Is there anything to be lost?
Discretion is becoming a lost art.
says Chris_PHAET_Demon on Sep 15th 17 (#2654268)
Yup, but truth is, if they ask for my opinion, I'll tell it. I don't have to be an **** about it, though. Some people seem to think for you to be honest, you have to be rude. Not true.
A light example: I went shopping with a friend. She asked me if a light yellow shirt looked good on her. I didn't like the sleeves, and I'm not a big fan of yellow in general, and I said it. She's a little sensitive with stuff like that, and I could have said "Sure it's good" because I knew she liked the shirt, but that's not what I thought. She was a little bothered with what I said, and I told her: "If you like it, buy it. I'm not the one that's going to wear it, it's you. You are the one that has to like it." She bought it and was happy with it.
Sometimes though, I just keep my mouth shut. Somethings don't need my input.
says Sofia on Sep 15th 17 (#2654284)
Hi, happy to see you around.
Yeah, I completely agree with you that being honest doesn't necessarily mean being rude. Yes, some people kind of mix the two things, and then criticize others for not liking their honesty, when the problem is actually the rudeness / the way they say it.
Damn, I'm wearing a light-yellow shirt. (Just kidding, lol - I mean, the part about the shirt is true, but the "damn" is just joking)
And yeah, some things usually don't need to be said. :P
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654294)
Yeah, that annoys me sometimes. Sure, be honest, but learn manners first before accusing others of not appreciating your "honesty". Like you said, sometimes people are more bothered with how the words are said than the opinion itself. (But it is true that some people ask for honesty, then when they get it, civil and all, they get pissed. Sometimes you can never win)
says Sofia on Sep 15th 17 (#2654309)
Yup, I completely agree - that also unfortunately happens.
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654314)
Well some people get off on hurting the feelings of others in the name of "free speech." Turn your filter on, have some respect and think before you speak.
says Tiffanee on Sep 15th 17 (#2654313)
Agreed. Some people think "having a filter" = "hindering free speech".
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654316)
I know how far to go...I would not intentionally say anything to hurt anyone...I love people
says JD on Sep 15th 17 (#2654324)
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654327)
You do love people, you big Wally... I'll give you that much
says Bub on Sep 17th 17 (#2656036)
That's why it's always good to be open minded
says JayDubbed on Sep 15th 17 (#2654418)
Yes. That's very true.
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654420)
I don't want to hurt anyone, even those, I don't like.
says dru18 on Sep 15th 17 (#2654433)
Yup, I'm like that too.
says primeiro on Sep 15th 17 (#2654449)
**** them. Why spare anybody's feelings? ESPECIALLY if you don't like them
says JayDubbed on Sep 16th 17 (#2654563)
Because I am not that way. Even if something is true, who wants to hear that shit.
says dru18 on Sep 19th 17 (#2657076)
What up dog...or should I say cat.
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663765)
LOL! You are not the only one who has thought my avatar was a doggie.
I took it from "white panther" and gave him a tie and glasses. Made him sharp looking. :)
says dru18 on Sep 29th 17 (#2664447)
Wow, that's news to me. I, too, always thought it was a doggie. :P :)
says primeiro on Sep 29th 17 (#2664448)
Remember "White Panther"? God, he was mean. LOL!
says dru18 on Sep 30th 17 (#2665036)
lol - I can't say I remember.
says primeiro on Sep 30th 17 (#2665078)
He was as old as dirt, real conservative, and mean. He was the kind of person, you just knew, was hitting little kids with his cane. LOL!
says dru18 on Sep 30th 17 (#2665093)
Ah. Lol. I never met that user. But the version with the glasses and the tie does looks much better. :D
says primeiro on Sep 30th 17 (#2665105)
Lucky you, my friend. He chased me around four posts, saying he was going to kick my ****, and then finally blocked me.
Thank you ! It makes him look more GQish. :)
says dru18 on Sep 30th 17 (#2665118)
Lol, it's actually good that he blocked. That way you got rid of him without having to do anything. :P :)
I hope you've been well.
says primeiro on Sep 30th 17 (#2665137)
Oh he was a piece of work, along with some other mentally unhinge ones on that site. "without having to do anything"?? I was too busy running, and covering my butt. LOL!
I have been as fine as frog's hair. School is challenging this semester, but so far, so good. Hope all is going well with you, and your loved ones.
says dru18 on Sep 30th 17 (#2665142)
Happy to hear! Glad to know that school is going well too. Yeah, thankfully all going well for me. :)
says primeiro on Sep 30th 17 (#2665204)
Trump supporters on this site are the most unhinged. I made a very innocent and honest comment on Chump and someone went on a personal attack. To say the reaction was disturbing would be a understatement.
says Tiffanee on Oct 8th 17 (#2669269)
I agree, but think they would have been ten times worse on SH.
Fef was a Christian Conservative, so they could do no wrong in his eyes.
says dru18 on Oct 9th 17 (#2670346)
Yes, I don't like hurting anyone, but if they push me too far, they better watch out.
says StarzAbove on Sep 16th 17 (#2654593)
That's pretty reasonable to me.
says primeiro on Sep 16th 17 (#2654604)
Works for me. lol
says StarzAbove on Sep 16th 17 (#2654606)
says primeiro on Sep 16th 17 (#2654607)
Rrrearr Hiss hiss. glad I haven't been on the receiving end of those claws.
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663768)
All the time. Then when I drink it all comes spilling out... :(
says Bub on Sep 16th 17 (#2654893)
Thank you for joining. :) Yeah, I'd say all the time for me too.
says primeiro on Sep 16th 17 (#2654942)
You know that so why drink??
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Sep 25th 17 (#2660900)
No I can say whatever in a way that will not hurt someone. Good thing because I can't just say nothing when it needs to be said.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Sep 25th 17 (#2660896)
Thank you for joining. :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661120)
I spent my childhood speaking my mind and continuously upsetting my parents and teachers and adults in general. Then I did it with my employers but I learned to be tactful over time in order to keep my jobs.
says OzSurfer on Sep 25th 17 (#2661042)
Thank you for joining. Always nice to see you on my post. :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661121)
Only if its my wife I'm worried about hurting
says TheCensoredBrit on Sep 25th 17 (#2661064)
Thank you for joining. :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661122)
says AliceD on Sep 25th 17 (#2661066)
Thank you for joining. :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661123)
It's definitely been an issue when posting questions about various health and body issues; I try to be as careful as I can. Excellent post, by the way.
says PartyOfOne on Sep 25th 17 (#2661075)
Thank you for joining. :) Always nice to see you around. :D
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661124)
sometimes so I put on a grin instead or a serious face depends
says mona1986 on Sep 25th 17 (#2661189)
That's a good strategy. :P Thank you for joining. :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661190)
Yes. It is rare that I actually wish to hurt anyone with my words, whether I like them or not.
says Piper2 on Sep 25th 17 (#2661346)
Thank you for joining. :)
And, thinking about it, I guess I actually didn't need to include "you like" at the end of the question, lol. :P :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661351)
Many people think trying to hurt others with their words is just fine, when they don't like them at the moment, for whatever reason. I've seen and experienced it, and I think your question a very good one, the way it is.
says Piper2 on Sep 25th 17 (#2661358)
Yeah, unfortunately that's very true. Sometimes people believe they're "entitled" to offending.
And thank you. :)
Your thoughtful comments are always appreciated and nice to have on my posts. :)
says primeiro on Sep 25th 17 (#2661359)
Not really, especially on a site like this.
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663736)
Thank you for joining. :)
says primeiro on Sep 29th 17 (#2663738)
You are welcome. Are you new to this site?
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663742)
I'm here for a while now - I joined in April 2016.
Before that, I was in SodaHead (I believe you were there too, if I recall correctly).
says primeiro on Sep 29th 17 (#2663744)
Yes I was an ex sodaheader too. I must say I'm a bit flattered that you remember me from that site.
I still miss that site by the way.
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663748)
I remember, yes. :)
And yeah, I actually still miss that site too. I like it here in its own unique way, but SH was great in its own way too.
says primeiro on Sep 29th 17 (#2663756)
Really the only thing that I find to be more difficult here than on SH is that this site is really hard to post pictures and videos on to go with your comments.
You know what they say about a picture being worth a thousand words.
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663760)
Yeah, that's very true - SH did have a friendlier interface for pictures and videos.
says primeiro on Sep 29th 17 (#2663763)
Let me qualify my earlier post. This site is an opinion site. So if someone post a question or an opinion on this site.
Then I will give an honest reply. Sometimes my replies might seem a bit course or maybe even be considered a little hostile to the reader.
It really isn't my intent to be abusive to anyone. But sometime the passion of my convections are difficult to cool at times
says Brianl on Sep 29th 17 (#2663747)
Thank you for the additional input. :)
I understand that. There is really nothing wrong with just giving your honest reply.
On here it's all mostly text, so it's sometimes hard to give a reply without seeming coarse.
says primeiro on Sep 29th 17 (#2663767)