"Spanking is the easy way out for parents who aren't creative enough to find other ways to discipline." Amirite? (+12)
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#818534)
"My parents were spanked and paddled in the 50s. They grew up fine and never laid a hand on me.
Still, it is my firm belief that spanking a child is completely unnecessary. It doesn't teach any lesson other than 'don't get caught' and 'it's okay to hurt people if I feel they deserve it.' Spanking is the easy way out for parents who aren't creative enough to find other ways to discipline."
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#2732300)
I've seen too many kids who weren't disciplined, and it reflects in their behavior. I've also seen too many adults who weren't disciplined and learned no self discipline. It is also often reflected in their behavior. Time outs didn't work 30 years ago and they don't work today.
says JustJimColo on Mar 13th 18 (#2732328)
“It’s okay to hurt people if I feel they deserve it”
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#2732338)
Discipline and respect are never outdated.
says JustJimColo on Mar 13th 18 (#2732351)
I didn’t say discipline or respect
I’m saying spanking and other methods of physical pain
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#2732386)
Are you saying teachers should not be allowed to spanks students as well?
says JustJimColo on Mar 13th 18 (#2732431)
teachers no they are paid to know ways to control kids. Nuns whacking hands was not nice but those kids paid attention.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736220)
My first year of school was in a Catholic school. Nuns had riding crops. I kept my mouth shut.
says JustJimColo on Mar 23rd 18 (#2736476)
JJ so there you go it did work didn't it. I never knew they went to riding crop s . Just think if it was today they would have tasers.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 23rd 18 (#2736479)
This was back in 1960. I only saw one kid get whacked with it, but everyone else saw it as well. Just seeing it was effective enough to keep me in line.
says JustJimColo on Mar 23rd 18 (#2736483)
You're right, time outs didn't work 30 years ago and don't work now.
says SynysterGates on Mar 13th 18 (#2732581)
I was spanked, but it was never a very effective punishment for me. Now when my parents would fight and yell at each other, that got me to shut up.
says Logan on Mar 13th 18 (#2732332)
Funny I never got spanked just the threat made me behave - while it did nothing to my sister she got licked about every day for one thing or another.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736222)
I dont have kids, so i cannot speak of what doesnt work.
I know i got it with a belt, from my mother, when i was bad. Kept me in line when she was looking.
says Carla on Mar 13th 18 (#2732337)
You learned, actions have consequences..<s>
says JustJimColo on Mar 13th 18 (#2732352)
My mom was so mad at me one time (can't remember what I did) she drove a fork in my quad. True story. She still talks about today.
says SynysterGates on Mar 13th 18 (#2732582)
Kids can sent mothers over the edge:[
says Carla on Mar 14th 18 (#2732860)
I did that a few times too much.
says SynysterGates on Mar 14th 18 (#2732863)
Ya my mom used to say she would go get a pillow and pound on it instead of me when i was a baby. Soon as I got a brain words were all I needed.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736224)
That was awful, bet you stopped what you were doing right??
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736223)
Oh yeah ... mom was the boss, lol
says SynysterGates on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736225)
I don't remember being spanked as a child, but I do remember being threatened. I did spank my kids when they deserved it. Just with my hand, and they grew up fine..... If more parents spanked their kids now, we wouldn't have so many kids disobeying any kind of authority. My kids knew they would be spanked when they disobeyed, so we never had a problem. The never ever rebelled against us. I would definitely recommend it to any parent.
says StarzAbove on Mar 13th 18 (#2732383)
I believe it's a matter of balance. I believe in spanking quite frankly. As Jim alluded to, the sooner children learn there are consequences for bad behavior, the sooner the behavior gets modified. If I were dealing with Congress, I'd go right to the leather belt.
says Freeranger on Mar 13th 18 (#2732416)
I was never spanked, thankfully, as my parents didn’t believe in corporal punishment. (I was a very sensitive kid who cried a lot; physical punishment would have only made things worse). However, not all kids are the same, and I do grant that for some kids, it may be the only thing that works; I’m glad that I never drove my parents to that kind of desperation.
says Thibault on Mar 13th 18 (#2732432)
Though some contend any form of physical correction equates to child abuse, there is a giant chasm between a mild spanking properly administered out of love and an out-of-control adult venting their emotions by physically abusing a child.
Corporal discipline should only be applied in cases of willful disobedience or defiance of authority—never for mere childish irresponsibility. And it should never be administered harshly, impulsively, or with the potential to cause physical harm.
says Budwick on Mar 13th 18 (#2732482)
I've always thought so...but some kids really test ones creativity...
says Sukiesnow on Mar 13th 18 (#2732492)
They sure do
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#2732515)
I never ever smacked my four kids and they have all grown up to be great parents and I'm proud how they turned out....I respected them and they respected me....
says JD on Mar 13th 18 (#2732530)
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#2732621)
JD you are perfect in every way right!
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 23rd 18 (#2736482)
I was spanked as a child, say what you want about it, but it works.
says Thedudeyouhatetomeet on Mar 13th 18 (#2732542)
Yes it does.
says StarzAbove on Mar 14th 18 (#2732830)
With the name you use, you never turned out very nice, hate to meet you...so it must not have made any difference...hehe
says JD on Mar 23rd 18 (#2736576)
Nothing wrong with spanking a kid in moderation of course.
says SynysterGates on Mar 13th 18 (#2732583)
Surely there's other ways to teach discipline and consequences
says fuzala on Mar 13th 18 (#2732623)
What other ways? I young child is like a puppy not much brain yet, so a simple tap gets their attention - your words don't mean much to them.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 23rd 18 (#2736625)
You are rite. What kid didn't know - inherently - when truth was spoken and when it wasn't... especially from adults?
says Bub on Mar 22nd 18 (#2735937)
Getting spanked as a kid is the reason why I like it today, I see no problem
says symplycurious on Mar 22nd 18 (#2735957)
spare the rod
spoil the child
how's that working out for society?
you can talk till you are blue in the face telling a kid
normal people use soap to wash clothes
but since you are NOT normal
keep munchin till you had your fill
says Neanderthal_Momdoer on Mar 22nd 18 (#2735959)
says PartyOfOne on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736018)
Kids respond to discipline differently. Good parents figure out what is needed to teach respect and bad parents only repeat what they were taught. It perpetuates the same issues in every generation.
says Will_Janitor on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736056)
spanking is successful . Not beating but fast slap on the **** never hurt a kid. Gets their attention faster than yelling 1 2 3 or all that.
says LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred on Mar 22nd 18 (#2736208)
If you love a kid it doesn't make much difference if you beat him or not.
If you don't love a kid it doesn't make much difference if you beat him or not.
says that_guy on Mar 28th 18 (#2738776)
Sometimes ... but not always. Sometimes a spanking gets the message across, when talking or other punishments have failed.
says Walt_OReagun on Mar 28th 18 (#2738782)